January 13, 2010
Congratulations?
One thing I cannot stand about being/getting engaged: being congratulated.
Seriously? Is it some HUGE feat to get engaged or married? Do you really think I had to cast some complicated spell in order to finally get that marriage proposal out of some guy? Millions of people get engaged or married. It’s obviously not hard. Anyone can get married…just look at some of the disasters that come out of Vegas (I know this is beating a dead horse, but…Brittney Spears, anyone?). Getting married is so easy. What’s difficult? Staying married.
I’m not married yet, but I’m not naive enough to think that it doesn’t take work. I know it takes work. A lot of work. Hell, being in any kind of relationship takes work (that is, if you’re being honest with one another and not trying to be what you think s/he wants you to be). But it’s different when you don’t see each other all day every day. Or if you live together and you know that you can leave whenever you feel like it, or that your partner can leave whenever s/he feels like it (not that that’s bad…at least you don’t end up in some horrible, miserable marriage). And girls are much less bitchy because they want that damned engagement ring (I noticed that when my frienemy’s and roommates were trying to get their boyfriends to propose, they were sickeningly sweet to them…when they were taking a rest from the nagging). Both participants are careful. Once you get married, you learn who the other person is…once it’s too late to leave.
Or at least that’s what everyone around me will have me believe about marriage. I guess I’ll find out whether or not it’s true in a few months!
So, yes. It annoys me when people congratulate people on getting engaged or married. You want a congrats out of me? Call me in fifty years and tell me honestly that you’re still happy with the decision you made. Then I’ll congratulate you. You earned that.
